Picking a flower girl can be hard, planning for a flower girl can be even harder. When picking the person you want to be your flower girl, there are some things that you should first consider. If you are fortunate enough to have many options on who to pick to be your flower girl, it might be best to first decide on who will be best based on age.
Age can be a helpful deciding factor since each age brings its own set of challenges and styles. If you know several girls in each age category, you can pick what age range will best fit your wedding style. For instance, an infant being pulled in a wagon is adorable in an outdoor setting. There are so many things you can do with the wagon to add personal touches or play more into your wedding theme. Not to mention the portrait photos will turn out great having an additional prop. If you are thinking of this age range for an indoor wedding, a wagon inside a church may seem out of place so you may need to think about who will carry your flower girl down the aisle. If mom is already a bridesmaid, then it’s an easy way to get your infant flower girl down the aisle. The same can be said for a toddler-aged flower girl.
A toddler-aged flower girl may be the most challenging age range to plan for. No matter how much you will it, plan it, or pray for it, the flower girl getting down the aisle is going to depend on the toddler and how she feels that day. NO ONE can predict what a toddler will do as a flower girl once the time actually comes. If this is your only option for a flower girl, just know that anything can happen. She may be the most perfect flower girl to ever walk, she might get scared or excited and run down the aisle, or she might have a complete melt-down and not be able to walk at all. If Mom or another close relative is in the wedding party, you may want to have a Plan B for that person to carry her if needed.
The pre-school to pre-teen age range is your most reliable bet for getting the flower girl down the aisle the way you envision. For the flower girl that is almost to the pre-teen age, the only challenge this presents is she may want to be included with the big girls. If you are hoping to have several adults-only moments or party bus, someone will have to break the news to her that she won’t be able to join in.
If you plan on having a flower girl that is older than a pre-teen, you will have the same set of challenges as previously mentioned with the pre-teen. A teen aged flower girl is also entering into the age where she may be better titled as a Junior Bridesmaid. Many Junior Bridesmaids have acted as the Flower Girl, but appreciated the older title.
If you don’t know a girl within the previously mentioned age ranges, another option is to have an elderly flower girl. Several brides have mentioned the idea of having the grandmothers walk in place of the flower girl. I personally LOVE this idea, assuming the grandmothers can make it down the aisle with no issues. Plus, if you go on Pinterest and search for the grandma flower girl, it’s pretty cute to see the images of the older ladies having a blast being involved. Not to mention how cute it is when they wear a flower crown!
If after going through all the possible age ranges, and you still don’t have a Flower Girl in mind, then don’t have one! You don’t need a flower girl or a ring bearer if you don’t want or have one. No one will miss them once you walk down the aisle in all your bridal glory.
If you do decide to have a flower girl, here are some quick things to remember:
- Make sure to invite her to a bridal shower
- Don’t forget to include her by getting her her own wedding party gift
- Take photos of just the two of you
- Make sure that she is at rehearsal so she knows what to do
- If she’s nervous, have someone walk through it with her several times
- Have a back-up plan in case of an extreme melt-down
- Don’t worry how she gets down the aisle, the memories and photos will be great ones!
If you have any other questions about flower girls, feel free to post a question in the comments or contact me through my website!